Showing posts with label Society. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Society. Show all posts

Monday, 1 April 2019

Message for both men and women: if a relationship is not what you deserve, then be brave enough to move on. Everyone deserves a better life.

She’d just gotten married. Within a few days, she sensed something was wrong.
“You should not wear salwars, wear a saree instead”, they said. She obeyed.
She had a job. But he didn’t.
“Is money the only thing that frames our life? I can manage our expenses. You take care of me”, she said.
“It's just a sip, nothing will happen.”
Is alcohol so addictive? He couldn't leave his bottle of joy.
“Give me some money to buy a drink”, he said.
“No.”
“You have to obey what I order.”
“No, it isn't happening.”
That's where physical violence stepped in.

Work, home, pay his bills (and his mom’s, sister’s and brother’s), get abused, work. This was her usual routine.
“Why should I live here? Yes, I should leave him. No, I should leave this world”, she thought.
She stopped. But why?
Only for her hope, the hope she carried in her womb. It was her only happiness.
Her hope turned out to be a baby girl. Everything was getting normal. A new dream, a new hope, a new life.
Baby cries in the train. She feeds her.
“Why do you do this on a train? Don't you know men stare at you? The attention is what you always need, isn’t it?”, he asked.
“But she is hungry, I have to feed her.”
“I don't care. Stop this”, he replied.
Again her usual routine started.
Work, home, take care of the baby, get abused, pay their bills, work, home, get abused.
Fast forward four years.
She got a job in another city. She shifted with her husband and daughter. ‘Maybe this time I can manage him alone without his family getting involved’, she thought.
Did anything change? No.
She demanded a divorce. He cried and played out a successful emotional drama.
She filed a case against him for domestic abuse. His mother pleaded for him. She withdrew the complaint.
Everyone supported him.
“This is normal in marriages. You are a woman. You should adjust. You should change him. You cannot live alone”, Society said.
Another year passed by. She was stronger. And it was time to leave this sick relationship.
She moved out.
She was alone with her child.
Do you think he let her go without creating a fuss? No. He performed the emotional drama every time. But she never listened. She needed a peaceful life.
After some years she got divorced.
“You cannot live like this. You did something wrong. You are not pure”, they said.
She never cared. She worked hard, day and night. She bought her own house, with her own savings. She provided the best for her daughter. She educated her to be bold. She raised her to be an independent girl.
All she could do is live for her.
Moral: Every woman out there should be financially independent and mentally strong before getting married.
Not every marriage ends up like this. The message I wanted to share is for women to be bold and to say no to domestic violence and abuse. You are not meant to adjust and change the man. Stay strong, whatever the situation.

Sunday, 29 April 2018

The dowry custom is one of the biggest evils in India. It has given rise to suicide, corruption and moral degradation. How according to you can we abolish the dowry customs in India?


Dowry: A Henious Social Crime
Since British rule efforts are being put to root out one draconian evil from Indian society that is dowry system but inspite of it, evil persists in all aspects everywhere in country. In some areas the dowry demand takes place as bargaining and bridegrooms are valued and auctioned as they are saleable commodity. Because of the dowry even today the birth of a female child is viewed as a curse and the girls are considered as a burden. The dowry custom prompts many parents to go for female foeticide. It motivates many in-laws to commit horrendous crimes of burning, poisoning or murdering the brides. Some brides commit suicide because of the constant pressure of fetching demanded money, car, TV etc; from their father's house whereas they have already fulfilled abundant dowry beyond their strengths. A vigorous national campaign is needed to create social awareness and social consensus to abolish the dowry system. Our younger generation should come forward to rectify this trend. They should set an example by neither demanding nor offering dowry. Moreover, an effective implementation of the law is needed to tackle the problem. Also, dowry will have to be tackled through the united efforts of NGO's and religious bodies. Media may play a vital role to mobilise public opinion against this social evil.

Sunday, 24 July 2016

Racism and its Affect on Society!


Racism is something something we've all witnessed. Many people fail to believe that race isn’t a biological category, but an artificial classification of people with no scientifically variable facts. In other words, the distinction we make between races has nothing to do with genetic characteristics. Race was created socially, primarily by how people perceive ideas and faces we are not quite used to. The definition of race all depends on where and when the word is being used. The irregular border of ethnicities touch educational and economic opportunity, political representation, as well as income, health and social mobility of people of color.
So where did this type of behavior begin? There are many ideas thrown around as to how racism began, though the truth lies in the history of mankind. Before people were able to travel and experience difference groups of people, we predominantly stayed in the same kind of area with the same kind of people. We feared things that were different, and were lacked the power to face those kinds of things. All this changed once we did, in fact, obtain this level of human advancement, but the fear never drifted. The truth is, racism began as soon as people faced those of different races. We’ve always the fear of change, not to mention the unknown.
It seems that is racism has been around so long we would have been able to overcome it as our species developed, but contact with those of whom we are afraid of often lead to disputes, which, in time, is what caused racism to transform from people simply disliking each other, to the permanent and indestructible foundation of common racism and prejudice.
Contemporary racism is said to have been derived from many places, one of the most common ideas being upbringing. As a child, you are reliant on your parents to help you become who you are. Part of that involves their own, distinct opinions, that of which children don’t have the maturity to form on their own. They need the help of their parents, and this is often where the problem starts.
If you were told that all Asians were sneaky or all Whites are evil or all Blacks are criminals, you can bet that you are going to feel this way about them.
“Upbringing is the largest cause of racism”-Anonymous. Even if we allow yourself to get to know some of them, this will always be in the back of your mind.
Another suggestion as to how racism makes it’s way into our heads is through the almighty media. As we grow up, media becomes a factor of our lives whether or not we want it to be, and is also a major source of how racism keeps itself active. Since the 70’s the media has been giving us racial labels, one of the largest supplies coming from crime shows like “Law and Order”, and “CSI”. When dealing with crime, people of color are reflected in the demarcation of “them” and “us”.
Whites are often represented as the “good guy”, or the strong, law obeying citizens. They often target people of color, sometimes without any sort of evidence.
But how does racism really affect society? Visibly identifiable members of racial and ethnic oppressed groups continue to struggle for equal access and opportunity, particularly during times of stringent economics. Often, the targeted race has a harder time doing things such as finding a well-paying job or house.
While there have been some sizeable gains in the labor force status of racial minorities, significant gaps remains. Racism is rampant in all areas of employment. For many members of exploited racial and ethnic unit, there is always an economic depression. Studies show that people of color are the last hired and the first fired. As a result, budget cuts, downsizing, and privatization may disproportionately hurt people of color.
During the Great Depression, people of color had a much harder time getting past the financial hardship because of the racial stereotypes that had before been thrown around.
Racism had existed throughout human history. It is regularly defined as the detestation, or belief that someone is less than human, because of skin color, place of birth, and mores. All of these arguments are based on a false understanding of race; in fact, some contemporary scientists could argue that the classification of races used today is inadequate, and that there are more meticulous and proper ways of categorizing humans. What may seem to be considerable "racial" differences to some people, such as skin color, hair, and facial shape, are not of much scientific significance.
It has been said that there have been greater biological differences between people of the same race than if we were to compare the same trait to a different race. One philosopher writes: "There are few genetic characteristics to be found in the population of England that are not found in similar proportions in Zaire or in China….those differences that most deeply affect us in our dealings with each other are not to any significant degree biologically determined."
Often what causes people to act racist is the fact that they have learned to conceal fear with racism. Many individuals react with fear towards those who look or appear different than them.
Fear is what makes us uncomfortable, making us need to protect ourselves and defend, mostly causing pain and discomfort to the person or object of the fear. Instead of attempting to fix and deal with the differences, the wall between the two maintains; union and agreement are never attained.
So how do we put an end to this? The sad fact of the matter is that, during this age, we won’t. People were born differently, and it’s only human to retaliate negatively to things or people we aren’t used to. Scientists believe there is the tendency in all animals to selectively preserve their own kind even at the cost of a different animal type, which is in essence what caused racism, not to mention prejudice in general.
As humankind progresses, our way of thinking becomes more complex, as does the world around us. The values we once had aren’t forgotten, but replaced with new values as our old ways hide in the back of our minds. Though they are present and may re-emerge if a change in life conditions calls them up, they are no longer the dominant. This genuinely is the hope for mankind in their fight to end racism. In the future, if we can surmount the silliness of racism to the point where no one senses it, we will be in fine condition. The most effective way to begin this, through the words of Morgan Freeman, is to “Stop Talking About It. Thankyousomuch!

Saturday, 23 July 2016

What do you think is the best punishment for rapists?


Those people with wrong intension who are addicted to have sex with every 2nd girl should be punished into cruelty. Like how could he forcefully do all that with any girl?
Guys you remember 16/12 " BLACK FRIDAY "? That girl named " NIRBHAYA SHAJI " what did the rapists do with her? She was walking with her friend maybe around 9pm and those cruel guys had been watching out her like the creepy hungry dogs who watch for the food! They took the girl / actually they snatched away the girl along with them, they took her into the bus and the driver drove the bus as fast as he can and throughout their journey over the roads, they raped her and what not they did? Made the girl completely half dead!
Next day after everything was over, Her friend took her to the hospital, doctors found many unexpected stuffs inside her stomach which were put into her vagina during the complete process! It was literally like those culprits were no way humans, they were the worst, you can't even call them animals too. How could they do this with her?? The girl could only survive for 72 hours and then finally she took her last breath and before dying she gave a sentence to her father "please don't leave the culprits"
I will say that, those rapists should be punished by undressing them, taking along the roads and their private part (If you know what I mean) should be spoiled and after that, they should be left to live their life as being half dead and struggle their whole life with that great loss. No job and food should be provided to them even their friends and family should ignore them. They should be treated the same way as the public treats a girl who loses her virginity. They should suffer the same way. So that others with this same intension would be aware of what might happen to them if they dare to do such crimes in thier lives. Thankyousomuch!

Wednesday, 20 July 2016

Why is Islam often misunderstood?


One of the main reasons I feel Islam is often misunderstood today is due to the simple fact that most people often think of Islam as some sort of Strange and EXOTIC faith that is taking place in larger number all over the world and not only India but other places too. In fact, People often view Islam in a wrong light due to the constant bias reports of the media and the overwhelming negative depictions of Islam in Hollywood cinema and popular news. This has an enormously negative and often underrated and understated effect on the minds of Non-Muslims. Some people think that Muslims pray to a different God altogether simple because Muslims refer to God as “Allah”…this is ridiculous. Indians, Christian, Jewish, and Islamic faith all refer to "The One God" as “Allah” in Arabic, Hindus say "Bhagwan" French use the word "Dieu"...the Spanish say "Dios"...the English say "God"...and the Germans say "Gott." and so on. However, just because they all have their own word for "God" in their own unique language this doesn't mean that they believe in a completely different creator. Everything is just the same, what you are required to do is just respect each and every religion. Thankyousomuch!

Monday, 18 July 2016

Have you ever asked yourself, How can I stop injustice in the world today? Why are there so many problems in the world? How can we all let this happen? Lets discuss few topics and related ways to solve it.


- There are more children, women, and men in slavery than ever before.
- Human trafficking gangs earn in excess of 32 billion dollars a year.
- Over 2 million children are still part of the worldwide sex industry.
- AIDS continues to spread around the world, devastating communities.
- Corporate and personal greed continues to drive the rich poor gap higher and higher.
- Racism and racial profiling.
- Sexism and many other forms of discrimination.
- The use of force against unarmed protesters.
- Women around the world being treated as the property of their male relatives or husbands.
- People around the world turning a blind eye to the problems all around them.
- Governments around the world caring more about getting elected rather than doing whats best for the people.
- Due to a lack of justice systems some poor people are unable to protect themselves against rich families.
- People sacrificing others for own personal gain.
- Children forced into military organisations.
✔Doesn’t make you feel too good about the world when you read all that and realise in some way we are all responsible. But lets stay positive on this and come up with some ways to solve or at least improve these problems. Here’s some things you can do.
- Share these issues, let other people know. People already know about them, but its always good to reinforce ideas.
- Discuss them with friends and family. You’ll be surprised who also cares about these issues.
- Join local protest groups or start your own.
- Pressure governments for change
- Sign petitions online
- Search the web for people with similar ideas.
- Stand up against people who perpetuate these injustices.
- Don’t give in to the corporate world or greed.
- Don’t be seduced by shiny things.
Thankyousomuch!

Saturday, 16 July 2016

Why are Muslims always categorised as terrorist's? What do you think about it?


I am not a Muslim but I feel they should not be stereotyped. I wonder why people feel that they are all terrorists? According to me, Muslims are the massive majority in many of the countries that the Western Powers would like to attack. It is simply good propaganda to demonise Muslims. The "T word" is also deployed very inconsistently. When a brown-skinned Muslim commits a murder, it is terrorism. When a white-skinned atheist/Christian does so, it isn't. That's the rule of thumb. We are very reluctant to associate what "we" hear/see on the mass media and accept what all sorts of news are shown. I plead you all to deeply consider the facts, think twice before you act/say anything. “Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that”. We cannot allow the disparity in media coverage to blind/fool us from the real facts and turn us into hateful people, mind it wee are smarter than them, and we must actually act smarter and should not judge anyone without actually making a look over. All of us are educated enough, we must stop violating Muslims from now on. Thankyousomuch!

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